How a Messianic jew should face marriage, divorce & new marriage?

How a Messianic Jew should face marriage, divorce & new marriage?

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Elohim created man and woman and He blessed their union of lust as one flesh. He tells husbands to love, nourishe, cherishe and honor them with care as weaker vessels; then, their lifes will be fullfield and their prayers answer.

(Genesis 2:18, 21-22, 24) Then the LORD Elohim said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him." ...... So the LORD Elohim caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh; and the rib which the LORD Elohim had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. ..... . Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.

(1Peter3:7) Likewise you husbands, live considerately with your wives, bestowing honor on the woman as the weaker sex, since you are joint heirs of the grace of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered.

What Elohim wants in your marriage?

The husbands are called to be the head of their marriage: representing the couple before Elohim , but always as equal partners. It is important to notice, that before forming a new home, both the husband and the wife sould break their ties with their their parents homes, being from now their priorities: their relationship with Elohim Almighty, the love and care for their spouces and the love and care for their future children in that order. Naturally their parents will be always recepients of their love and honor.

(Ephesians 5:23-25, 27-28): For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands....... Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church

(Colossians 3:19) Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.

Also husbands and wives should enjoy the mate they choose and remember the covenant they promise when they got married: �To love and to cherish ..in good times and in bad times� all the days of your life�, no looking for other partner when everything goes wrong in their relationship.

(Ecclesiastes 9:9) Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life which he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.

(Malachi 2:15) let none be faithless to the wife of his youth.

(Proverbs 5:18-18) Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely hind, a graceful doe. Let her affection fill you at all times with delight, be infatuated always with her love. Why should you be infatuated, my son, with a loose woman and embrace the bosom of an adventuress?

(Hebrews 13:4) Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for Elohim will judge the immoral and adulterous.

Wife should reverence her husband for all his attentions, love and help him and be of gentle disposition.

(Ephesians:5:33): Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

(Peter I 3:1-2) Likewise you wives, be submissive to your husbands (NOT slaves), so that some, though they do not obey the word, may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, when they see your reverent and chaste behavior. .

(Proverbs 31:10-31) A good wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.

(This a list of her character) The heart of her husband trusts in her.. She does him good .. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household .. Her lamp does not go out at night. ..She opens her hand to the poor, and reaches out her hands to the needy. ..Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. .. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come� She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue� Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: "Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all." ..a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

What Elohim wants in your sex life?

For a good intimate relationship between the couple read 1 Corinthians 7:1-7.

Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: �It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.� 2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 Now as a concession, not a command, I say this.[a] 7 I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.

Yeshua clearly states:

(Matthew :19:6): So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore Elohim has joined together, let not man put asunder."

Should a person be alone?

(Ecclesiastes 4:8-12) a person who has no one, either son or brother, yet there is no end to all his toil, and his eyes are never satisfied with riches, so that he never asks, "For whom am I toiling and depriving myself of pleasure?" This also is vanity and an unhappy business. Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up. Again, if two lie together, they are warm; but how can one be warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Divorce:

Yeshua is very clear in this theme:

(Matthew 19:5-6 ) And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore Elohim hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Separation or divorce it is not what Elohim desires for a couple. But Yeshua answers them why He permited divorce in the times of Moses:

(Matthew 19:8) He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

But He was very strong to clearify that two people can divorce or separate only when:

(Matthew 19:9) And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Only because of fornication (sexual inmorality) and when the guilty part decide to separate can somebody divorce according to the Master. But that is not what Elohim Wants. He want couples never to separate in accordance to his will.

But there is also a second way of separation given by Paul:

( 1Corinthians 7:12-15) But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but Elohim hath called us to peace.

In this second form of divorce both partners are married and one of them is non-beliver and they want to depart from us, Paul tell us, not the Lord, let them do it. We are not called to be in bondage, but in peace. In this case until Elohim sends you somebody else born again christian to your life, do not divorce your partner wait and pray; you do not know if Elohim will change your partner heart and he or she becomes a christian too.

Is it posible a new marriage under the Bible (Torah)?

Also, if you had a previous divorce before coming to the Lord, you have been forgiven. But make sure you fall in love with a born again beliver, so that your marriage will last forever under Elohim �s care.

Pastor Yosef Ben Marques © 2013

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